Children and the primal scene
Dear Dr. Milrod: I read about a mother and her boyfriend who would, on occasion, engage in sex in front of the mother’s 9-year-old daughter. The daughter mentioned this in school and now the mother and the boyfriend are charged with child abuse or similar charge. Are you aware of any studies that would support or undermine the assertions of child abuse? Bedtime Story Dear... Read More
Good health = good sex life
Dear Dr. Milrod: As we males get older, we sometimes can’t get an erection at will. I remember when I was younger, an old timer told me that the secret to a long sex life was to stay in good shape and have a good diet. How true it is that Viagra is a good thing if you need it, but take care of yourself and your penis will take care of you? Old Nut Dear Old Nut: I am always... Read More
I could not even come once, what is wrong with me?
Dear Dr. Milrod: I’m a young guy, only 30, but not exactly in the best shape (230+ lbs). For a long time, I was good for two orgasms in an hour, but over the last year, that’s gone down to one. I guess, as they say, it’s the quality not quantity that counts. Knowing I can’t get off a second time in an hour, I usually hold out as long as possible. So... Read More
Neurotransmitter cascade – how long does it last?
Dear Dr. Milrod: Do you have any knowledge about how long the increase in dopamine and serotonin lasts when you are in an intensely emotional and sexual relationship? Is it weeks, months, or years? Is there a difference between men and women? Once the cascade falls off, can it reoccur for the same couple? Is that unlikely because other neurotransmitters take over? Is there... Read More
Sex therapy fears
Dear Dr. Milrod: My relationship with my spouse of 18 years hasn’t been very good for the past several years. One of our major issues, at least for me, is the nearly complete lack of sexual desire and/or ability on her part. We had intercourse one time last year and other activities occur once every 4 – 6 weeks. She hasn’t allowed me to perform oral on her for... Read More
Never had an orgasm
Dear Dr. Milrod: I am a 29-year-old woman and have never had an orgasm. Is there something wrong with me? I have been married for a year and had sex with nine men before that. Nothing. What can I do? Worried Well Dear Worried Well: There have been volumes written on female anorgasmia and its causes. Everything has been implicated – from childhood sexual abuse sequelae, to... Read More
My wife is sexually conservative – what to do?
Dear Dr. Milrod: I am a married guy in my 40s. I have have recently found some sexual pleasure in the arms of “other women.” However, I would love for my wife to provide what I get from the paid ladies. I have talked to her about it from time to time but to no avail. She was raised very conservatively and it is still affecting her to this day, at least sexually. She finds it... Read More
A little lost in the love and lust department
Dear Dr. Milrod: I’m 25 years old and I just got over a 5-year relationship with the person I thought was going to to be my wife and the mother of my children. At that point I was working a decent job, but I had to work so much, I was very tired and she would be asleep by the time I called her. She started to complain that I never spent time with her; when I did, I was all over... Read More
Sex as a weapon
Dear Dr. Milrod: I think my wife is using sex as a weapon. We were going to hang some new wallpaper and she told me “no sex at all until the wallpaper is hung!” This is only one example among many. She uses sex as a reward sometimes, and the withdrawal of sex as punishment. What should I do? Frustration’s the Name Dear Frustration’s the Name: Every couple has its own rules... Read More
I want to become a stripper
Dear Dr. Milrod: I want to become a stripper, but I am only 18 and I am scared. I just want to do it for the money. Should I do it? Suzy Cue Dear Suzy Cue: If you are scared and just want to do it for the money, I would not advise doing it at all. Happy and successful exotic dancers actually dance because they: 1. Like to exhibit their bodies 2. Find it thrilling to get the admiration... Read More
