Where is her G-spot?

Dear Dr. Milrod:

Exactly how to locate this elusive erotic and sensitive zone and what exactly do I need to do to push my girl over the edge. Sorry, if I seem naive, but I seriously need a woman’s perspective here.

Randy Andy

Dear Randy Andy:

To locate the G-spot, face your partner while she is lying on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina as far as it will easily go. Then crook it upward toward yourself in a “come here” motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. (Make sure you have your fingernails clipped short and buffed before you do this — sharp fingernails will definitely ruin the effort.) This rough or slightly ridged area is the “G-spot,” and touching it will often cause a woman to react with pleasure. If you don’t get a reaction, ask her if she feels especially sensitive when you touch what you think is the spot. You may need to use a fair amount of pressure to find the G-spot because it is located within, not on the outside of, the vaginal wall. The best way to manually stimulate the G-spot is with a firm “tapping” motion with your crooked finger. Some find it easier to stimulate the G-spot with various toys. Any dildo can be used for this, but the ones that are best suited for G-spot stimulation are hard and curved. Many are made specifically for G-spot stimulation, as their length, width and curve are specifically designed to take the guesswork out of G-spot stimulation.

Even women who do not enjoy manual stimulation of the G-spot may enjoy penile stimulation of the spot during intercourse. If your penis has a natural upward bend, that may be helpful. Other men have to find positions that maximize penile contact with the front wall of the vagina. The “woman on top” positions and posterior (doggy style) positions are best for achieving that contact. Otherwise, the only way to get G-spot stimulation in the missionary position is to prop her hips up with pillows. Women can also intensify their ability to have G-spot orgasms by learning to contract their pelvic muscles, known as Kegel exercises.

Christine Milrod, Ph.D.

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