I am a man and want to understand menopause

Dear Dr. Milrod: There must be thousands of books on menopause, and yet in some ways it still seems a mystery.  Women can get it as early as 45, and it can last anywhere from 2 to 15 years, no?  Or are there no rules?  Does sexual desire always decline in women during/after menopause?  Are exceptions frequent? I am a “mature” man, and although my frequency and quality of performance have declined inevitably with the passage of time, my desire is almost as keen... Read More

I had sex with a transgender woman – what to do now?

Dear Dr. Milrod: What should I do – or how should I feel, after the fact that a lady I really enjoyed spending time with is actually a post-op transsexual? Glen or Glenda Dear Glen or Glenda: The acceptance of someone else’s gender seems to be correlated with the acceptance of one’s own. Many men who are very uncomfortable – almost phobic – toward gender variance have been found to have deeply rooted defense mechanisms in place to cement their own fragile... Read More