Dear Dr. Milrod:

What is the best way to have a prostate orgasm?  Using a vibrating toy, repeated thrusting with a dildo, certain shapes of toys? I have always wanted to experience one of these, but have never been able to quite do it.

Borden

Dear Borden:

It depends on what you find pleasurable. Some precautions: if you choose a dildo, make sure it’s a smaller type suited for anal stim. And use plenty of lube; you don’t want to have microfissures in your anus. The easiest thing to insert is clearly a finger, perhaps the one of a partner, for simplicity’s sake, although you can do it to yourself if you have reasonably long fingers. The person inserts his/her finger into your anus and massages the prostate gland very gently. You can find your prostate a few inches above the anus. As you know, the prostate has been described as “walnut-sized,” so it’s not that hard to find. The person is then supposed to massage and squeeze the prostate gland sort of “downward.” Some people use various devices like the “Aneros.” To me, they look just like butt plugs, so that may also work for you. Here’s to your healthy prostate!

Christine Milrod, Ph.D.