A little lost in the love and lust department
Dear Dr. Milrod: I’m 25 years old and I just got over a 5-year relationship with the person I thought was going to to be my wife and the mother of my children. At that point I was working a decent job, but I had to work so much, I was very tired and she would be asleep by the time I called her. She started to complain that I never spent time with her; when I did, I was all over her. She said I only thought about sex. Meanwhile, I think about her day and night. Not even sexually,... Read More
Sex as a weapon
Dear Dr. Milrod: I think my wife is using sex as a weapon. We were going to hang some new wallpaper and she told me “no sex at all until the wallpaper is hung!” This is only one example among many. She uses sex as a reward sometimes, and the withdrawal of sex as punishment. What should I do? Frustration’s the Name Dear Frustration’s the Name: Every couple has its own rules and roles, its communication and its meta-communication; power and powerlessness can shift from issue... Read More
I want to become a stripper
Dear Dr. Milrod: I want to become a stripper, but I am only 18 and I am scared. I just want to do it for the money. Should I do it? Suzy Cue Dear Suzy Cue: If you are scared and just want to do it for the money, I would not advise doing it at all. Happy and successful exotic dancers actually dance because they: 1. Like to exhibit their bodies 2. Find it thrilling to get the admiration of an audience 3. Find that combining business and pleasure can be quite fun and profitable 4.... Read More
Time to stay erect
Dear Dr. Milrod: How long does a typical 40-year-old male stay erect? In porno movies, they’re up for 30 minutes straight. I assume that’s editing. Disbeliever Dear Disbeliever: I certainly do not have an answer that will fit everyone and all. A penis belonging to a healthy pre-andropausal male will stay erect when stimulated; it will also depend on the nature of the stimulus and who does what to whom. Of course, the same healthy male will eventually ejaculate if the... Read More
I have performance anxiety when it comes to anal sex
Dear Dr. Milrod: I am a guy who has always fantasized about anal sex. About two years ago, I began indulging in it. I really like it and do it whenever the opportunity arises. But something happened. First was an instance about eight months ago where the girl allowed it, but I lost my erection. Second time, it was with another girl and let’s just say the adventure was not as completey hygienic as I was expecting. I noticed that after the second occurrence, I can be hard... Read More
Exhibitionistic women and the men who love them
Dear Dr. Milrod: What is the fascination for men regarding women who are exhibitionists? Curious Cat Dear Curious Cat: I am not so sure that men are so unequivocally fascinated with women who are exhibitionists. Depending on the male, he can also experience embarrassment, shame and a fair amount of jealousy in the face of a female exhibitionist. Of course, if the man is not connected with her personally, then he may get turned on. It’s sort of the same logic that operates... Read More
Using a female condom
Dear Dr. Milrod: I’ve now been with a couple of women who have selected to use female condoms instead of a regular male condom. It can take a while to insert properly but I’ve also found that it can be difficult to switch sexual positions if this entails withdrawing. Sometimes it seems that the female condom begins to dislodge, for example in moving from the woman on top to the man on top. Having to stop to make sure it’s still properly secured creates a loss... Read More
